Comments on: Dressing Up, Not Over https://www.thesimplyrefined.com/dressing-up-not-over/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dressing-up-not-over Simply Refined Wed, 09 Jan 2013 09:01:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Stephen https://www.thesimplyrefined.com/dressing-up-not-over/#comment-768 Stephen Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:50:20 +0000 http://www.thesimplyrefined.com/?p=3306#comment-768 Mr. Franceski, thank you for your comments. I must have garbled the point. I’m not suggesting at all that we should all give in to the fact that most people don’t wear tailored clothing or even care about what clothing they wear. Maybe it would be better at this point for me to rely on someone else’s words to avoid making things more confusing instead of more clear;

It is both delusional and stupid to think that clothes don’t really matter and we should all wear whatever we want. Most people don’t take clothing seriously enough, but whether we should or not, clothes do talk to us and we make decisions based on people’s appearances. – G. Bruce Boyer in a recent interview in the Wall Street Journal

I agree here with The Dean in that “wearing whatever you want” can be a problem, whether that means sweatpants or dinner jacket. It’s not being mocked or “not fitting in” that I think is to be avoided it’s making others feel uncomfortable. Like all issues of manners and etiquette, it’s about putting people at ease, not on edge. Clothes say a lot and you just want to be sure you’re speaking at the appropriate volume – what you have to say is up to you.

]]> By: Joe Franceski https://www.thesimplyrefined.com/dressing-up-not-over/#comment-765 Joe Franceski Tue, 29 Nov 2011 04:11:54 +0000 http://www.thesimplyrefined.com/?p=3306#comment-765 Strange to say as the earlier commentator did that he liked your thoughts about the fact that fine dressing is going away. I am not sure that is what he meant, actually. I for one see Stephen’s commentary as problematic for anyone looking to take away something of value from it. He seems to be saying that if one wants to dress to point out that the current trend is wrong, then the wearer is a snot or a snob because he wants to stand out. So you hide your light under a bushel basket then, and pull out your good wardrobe only occasionally, when others won’t think badly of you; or you won’t make a scene? You like to dress but you resist doing so in order to fit in? I don’t know about this. It seems to be of two minds. But ultimately, it comes down on the side of fit in with the “casuals” lest you stand out and be– what? Mocked? My sense is you wear what you like and make a statement as long as it is in good taste. If the message is “no one dresses up anymore” and that’s that we might as well accept it, then why have this blog at all?

]]> By: Andrew https://www.thesimplyrefined.com/dressing-up-not-over/#comment-752 Andrew Tue, 22 Nov 2011 23:26:00 +0000 http://www.thesimplyrefined.com/?p=3306#comment-752 I like your thoughts, the art of fine dressing by gentlemen is going away every passing day.

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